You just want to start over. You just want to end your unhappy and dysfunctional marriage. You just want to remain an active and loving part of your child’s life. You just want a fair settlement and custodial rights. All of these wants sometimes find themselves superseded by the need to defend yourself in family court. Many times, fathers find themselves having to defend themselves...
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They are told to “man up.” They are told that “guys don’t cry” and that “it’s not a big deal.” They are encouraged to ignore the cuts or bruises that may develop on their skin, in addition to the cuts and bruises on their hearts and souls. Men experience domestic violence, too. No one is suggesting that it is to the extent that women experience...
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Within the last year, the #MeToo movement, which began in 2006 to help African American women and girls, as well as other minority women from low-income communities who have survived sexual violence, has taken off and has become a mainstay in society and culture across race, religion, culture, gender, and sexual orientation. The national dialogue has crossed platforms and has become a part of a...
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The Royal Borough of Greenwich, a southeastern borough of London, began a campaign in August to promote awareness of domestic violence and its effects on young children. As part of the campaign, the borough has hung a series of posters in London train stations. One of the posters blatantly stereotypes fathers as violent abusers. It depicts a man abusing his wife and his young son...
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By Sarah J. Merry Cordell & Cordell Divorce Lawyer Whether it is the “deadbeat dad”, the stupid and lazy husband, or the violent criminal, the mass media is full of distorted and negative portrayals of men. While cognizant of the distorted portrayal of men in the media, it is beyond disappointing that this twisted portrayal has made its way into the Public Service Announcements for...
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In Nebraska, a debate is raging on the merits of joint custody, also known as shared parenting. As a result of the intense arguments brewing, the Nebraska Administrative Office of the Courts released a shocking report on child custody orders in the state. From 2002 to 2012: 72 percent of the time mothers were awarded sole or primary custody 13.8 percent of the time fathers...
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Submitted by Anonymous I worked as a domestic violence advocate for a Midwest domestic violence shelter for about five years. This article and my other (“Inside Story: Domestic Violence Shelters“) are based upon my education in the field of criminal justice and domestic violence as well as personal experiences I encountered during my employment. I truly believe that the United States legal/justice system is the...
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A legal system that was designed to protect against abuse is itself being abused, as described in the previous article “How Your Ex-Wife Can Legally Keep Your Kids From You.” The power of false allegations of abuse is undeniable, but the story of Darryl Ginyard gives hope to all fathers being denied their rights to see their children.
High-conflict divorces are often followed by varying degrees of custodial interference combined with false allegations of abuse. A vengeful ex-wife may deny a father telephone access to his children, interfere with a dad’s participation in their children’s sports events or school activities, or thwart a dad’s pre-arranged parenting time by refusing visitation. One tried-and-true tactic used in keeping the children away from their father –...
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Submitted by Anonymous I have worked as a counselor in a domestic violence shelter in the Midwest for more than five years. I enjoyed my job when it was legitimate, when I was helping an actual victim of domestic violence overcome their past, their trauma, and move on with their lives. However, day-by-day, week-by-week, it became more and more obvious that the business of domestic...
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