Dealing With False Claims Made Against Your Character
In any type of relationship, whether it is a friendship, dating relationship, marital, a relationship between ex-spouses, or the spatial relationship between strangers, judgments are made. If two strangers are sharing a seat on a crowded bus, assessments are made, and whether those assessments are accurate is irrelevant until the context of their character is revealed through conversation.
Many who go through marital difficulties begin to make judgments on various aspects of one another’s appearance or behavior and hold these things against the other’s overall character.
Whether it is the way a parent tells a child to behave inside of a grocery store or the way they decide to dress out in public, they are subjected to the thoughts and opinions of the other, and once a divorce becomes something that seems likely to occur, these misjudgment can be used to harm aspects of your future during the case.
This type of cycle is referred to as a self-fulfilling prophecy, and according to Psychology Today, this idea refers to a false belief of a situation that evokes a behavior that in turn makes the false belief become true.
This means that regardless of the validity of the false statements or misjudgments made against you and your character, your soon-to-be ex-spouse still has the ability to use them in a potential case. This poses problems for your defense, and you then have to spend time, money, and effort proving that the claims made against you actually are false.
Claims of abuse
In cases where the false claims are related to the act of abuse, it is important to understand how a protection order is used during the divorce process. It can be used to force an accused individual out of their home or prevent them from contacting their children. Because of the court’s well-intentioned notion to be safe than sorry, evidence is not necessarily required in order to obtain one, which gives a great advantage to the party filing the false claim.
This directly impacts most child custody cases, as up to 70 percent of domestic violence allegations made during them are deemed to be unnecessary or fabricated.
The best way to fight these false allegations is to stay calm, consult with your attorney, and come up with a strategy that best fits your situation. Given the variations that can occur in one’s case, it’s important to employ the way that is best suited to proving these judgments wrong.
Sometimes, the judgment has nothing to do with aspects of your character that, if taken seriously, could harm your case and potentially, your future. Sometimes, we, as individuals, misjudge those we get closer to. Whether that is in friendship, in a relationship, or in marriage, thinking people are one way, and finding out that they are another is a fairly common social occurrence. Sometimes, it is intentional, and sometimes, it is not.
False pretenses exist within marriage, when one spouse is not as transparent and honest as needed be. Being who you truly are is a part of communicating with others and allows them to make decisions about themselves that affect their own future.
When confronted with the misjudgment of one’s character after a marriage already is final, the ending of the marriage may qualify for an annulment.
Who you are vs. who they are
It might not even be about the alimony or assets. It might just be about one spouse marrying someone and them not understanding who that person is. Being misjudged can be just as devastating as misjudging someone, and as much as we, as individuals, would want to try to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes, it’s not always possible. Sometimes, there is too much damage done, too many words said, too many actions against one another taken. It becomes too much for either side to handle. They simply have to let each other go their separate ways.
For those who have misjudged an ex-spouse or were misjudged by an ex-spouse, this can be a learning experience for you. This can be an opportunity to be more communicative and considerate of others. This can be an opportunity to get to know people more in-depth, before you make any decisions that directly affect your future. At the end of the day, it is all up to you.